Thought separates itself from emotion, and it separates in order to survive that emotion. He has to survive as an entity to live a new experience of that kind. The emotion is real; the thought is not! If it is treated, it disappears. Treated here means being seen when it appears, without the separation between it and thought. Thus, treated, the emotion disappears, because that same energy of feeling, of the present emotion, is Consciousness. But the thought does not want this being treated, so it separates to explain the emotion. When thought does this, it is ready to, again, repeat itself with this foundation of emotion. The existence of the "I" is basically thought; it is not emotion, it is not feeling. That is a good tip you are hearing from me now! When you are sad, stay with the sadness, but not with the story. Try the sadness without the story so you can see what happens to it. Why does not the Jnani, the Awakened One, experience sadness?
It is inattention that brings sustenance, the continuity of that experience. When there is full attention to what is presented, the experience leaves no scar, leaves no background, leaves no foundation, leaves no emotional memory. Since childhood you have been conditioned not to feel emotional pain, to be protected from emotional pain. When the child falls, the father or mother runs off and begins to comfort the child so she does not cry. First, because his or her ego becomes irritated; the father and the mother become angry with the child crying. It is a deeply self-centered thing. The second reason is egocentric as well, because the father is not allowing the child to feel what he needs to feel, which is frustration, anger, pain ... When this is done, such a natural process is interrupted ... which ends up conditioning the child to not suffer emotional pain.
You were created like this: protected! Worse, you keep doing this when your children are adults. For a lifetime, the idea of being a parent is to be protective, and to protect is do not allow pain, do not allow the suffering of those you say you love. Do you have to be perverse to that point?! In this unconsciousness, you are being very perverse, very bad. The only one who could not give any protection is giving all protection! You are being an executioner! You are doing enormous harm! This is a big heartbreak! This happens in inattention, and sometimes that inattention is cultivated, appreciated, praised!
So, come on ... If you break the story, which is the thought of emotion or feeling (the emotion itself is perfect, the feeling itself is perfect) you break the ego pattern of repeating yourself being someone in that experience of pain. When you break the story to this sadness, you disappear! There is no way for this sadness to return, because it is only sustained by the experimenter. Now do you understand when I use the word experimenter? It is someone in the experience of pain, of frustration, of disappointment, of sadness...
Are not you here to go beyond the ego? Is there something inside you that says you're not that person, that "me", that "I"? So assume that! Stop feeding that identity in the experience! When you find out you have been betrayed, take the pain, but not the story of someone betrayed. You can take any position from this pain, but not a position of someone betrayed. Do you understand? Because there will be no ego! You will do something, but this "doing" will simply be an action, not revenge, reactivity, it will be something natural there. You do not have to be in this situation, or watch it repeat itself. But, in fact, the ego loves suffering, so it sees it repeating and consenting, holding that to be someone always in that experience of pain. You are always the betrayed, the victim, the sufferer, the "poor little dear", the poor dear, the poor little one ... because it feeds the ego, the "me".
In this Consciousness, which is this attention to experience, where only “it” is important and not the experiencer, suffering ends. That is Sanity, that is Holiness, that is Love, that is Truth! So, before life, stay with the experience, but do not feed someone inside it. The car can break, something can be damaged, but this is the car problem, it is still not your problem. If you do not know how to act in relation to the car, what about the body itself, when it is sick or injured? You will look at the broken leg and will curse it or curse the hole that made the leg break because, according to you, the hole would have been the cause of the broken leg. But that is already an explanation, just as you would explain that the car broke because it went through the hole. But this is the car trouble! Now, if "you are the car", the irritation is not of the car, it is yours!
The fact is that your relation with life is a relationship. There is no love, but an agreement, where everything has to go right, which means everything goes well to "my" favor! All in accordance with what "I" desire, with what "I" want ... Only that life is not like that! Life is very generous! I call that generosity of God. She wants to wake you from this dream that you are important, that you are the center of the universe, that you are the one! So, you stay with the experience, but free from the history. It is not from the unpleasant experience, it is from any experience. Why do you get attached to a pleasure? Because you put the thought into the experience. It is not the pleasure of the experience, it is not the pain of the experience, it is the illusion of someone present to live it again, or to go through it again. The problem with the ego is this! There is no ego in life, there is no ego in the experience. There is only ego in the illusion that you are important in the experience; that you deserve the experience again, which is what you desire with pleasure; or that you do not have to go through that, which is the experience of pain.
You have all the power here, consciously, free from the experimenter, to choose whether to continue in that situation or not. Now, if you still make choices being an experimenter, your choice is an ego choice. You want to sustain an experience of pleasure, there you cling to it, which means giving a personal meaning to that. And in the experience of pain, you want to get rid of it! What you are doing is the same, you are giving a personal meaning to that experience of pain. What is the result of this? This will happen again. You cannot get out of this circuit. This is called Samsara, the wheel!
The Wise One, who is You, is not confused with the experiencer in experience. There, you welcome ... welcome everything! You are the Wise, you are Consciousness, You welcome! This requires Attention, Presence, Consciousness. This requires the freedom of being what you were born to be. This is simple, not easy. The ego prefers spirituality or spiritualization. There he becomes more and more spiritual, kinder, kinder, more charitable, more conciliatory, more peaceful ... It does not require any effort to have the discipline of its spirituality, only the "effort" of an enterprise, which the own ego is happy to do. But here, in this Consciousness, there is no ego. You have no value. You add nothing to yourself, in this Attention, in this Consciousness. In fact, you disappear. You do not come out more spiritual after you have gone through the hole. Going through "holes" in life will not make you a highly spiritual person. Realize that, deep down, Awakening gives you nothing. Enlightenment does not make you "someone", much less someone special. Who would desire the Enlightenment?
* Transcribed from a speech in a face-to-face and intensive meeting on August 2016, in João Pessoa.